Learning to Be Me

Hi,

How is your weekend so far? Mine has been pretty exhausting but in a good way, just happy that things are getting done including kicking my own butt to get in shape again. ;p But that’s for another blog entry… What I want to express today is my sheer thanks to God that I am me, and no one else. Not in a big headed kind of way, (as anyone who knows me can easily vouch for me), I am learning that it’s okay to be myself. May sound silly to many people, as I am an adult and should already have discovered that a long time ago. But unfortunately as happens in many people’s lives, sometimes we let past failures, bad comments, or our own fears control us into thinking we have to just be like everyone else – as in dress like everyone else, do our hair like everyone else, talk like everyone else and like what everyone else likes, when in fact that is so not true. Even as a Mommy blogger, I feel compelled to make my blog look like everyone else’s blog, but I am forcing myself to just make it the way I want to, as I would be giving in to yet more people pleasing. Well, you can follow me along in this adventure of life, as I learn to be myself, and not to rely on my own strength or talents, but to go where the Lord leads me. Yes, it’s true I’m Christian, and I am happy to be so. Do not let me intimidate you, but rather share what I have learned in my walk so far and what I keep learning in my walk with God.

As our pastor pointed out today, we all have failed in many areas, but God has plans for each of us, and we need to keep getting up when we fall. It’s not the falling that should be our focus, as everyone falls at some point, but it should be our getting back up that we should make sure we focus on and asking God for His Strength and Guidance. But I digress, what I want to share with all of you is that indeed, I will not always agree with your choices, and you will not always agree with mine, however, can we agree that when someone makes a statement about something that is important to them, to try to avoid knocking that other person’s opinion? It’s quite easy actually, it’s called listening. I need to work on listening and not interrupting too, so I’m not perfect. But since I have trouble expressing myself without feeling bad about it after, can we agree that we are all different which is fine, and that when someone is doing something that is just a matter of personal style or taste, that we leave our bad comments to ourselves? That’s something I think we can all achieve. Afterall, isn’t the saying, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all?” I thought we all learned that in kindergarten or maybe earlier. I’m sure we all teach our kids that, so why can’t we follow through with it? Is it that hard not to say something when you disagree with someone? I mean, unless someone is asking for your opinion, or if something is dangerous in some way, should we not encourage each other to be ourselves and to feel safe expressing our feelings? Should I have to hide my feelings or dress a certain way/act a certain way to gain other’s approval? Or should I feel like I’m less of a person because every time I say something that’s important to me, someone else knocks me down? No. Clearly not, as God does not want us to live in fear, or to pretend to be someone we’re not. I hope at least one person reading this will remember that they are a child of God, who purposely made us each different for His Own Purposes, and that He delights in our uniqueness, not in being anyone else. It is our uniqueness that makes us who we are, and if each of us would feel free to just be ourselves, there would be so much creativity flowing in this world, and beauty. Alas, there will always be critics, which is fine, but please allow for freedom of expression, please do not supress the beauty that is in another individual just because you do not agree with it. I mean, if you’re good at judging others, that is something you need to work on, but please be courteous to others. I am also working on taking the brunt of negativity and rudeness and whatever else the world throws at me, and saying to myself, “Just breathe… do not focus on it, but focus on God’s Truth and Love.” Unforgiveness and hurt can well up inside so easily, especially I think for women as we are really emotional creatures, (my husband can attest to this), and we need to stop and think before we criticize others or ourselves. We need to stop living like robots and start living like the women God made us to be, strong in Christ and free to be individuals in all ways. So as this blog title states, I’m learning to be me, and I’m happy with that decision, so there!
*grins* Now to walk it… please pray for me that I keep remembering this on a daily basis and that I allow myself to do so.

With Love,

Roxy

Loud Songs

Hello Moms,

Wow, it’s been a loud couple of days, lol! I just recently got a free kid’s karaoke tape player/radio from a friend of mine, and yesterday I was able to track down a variable DC adapter from the thrift shop. Now I am inundated with loud music at every turn, along with kids shouting into the attached microphone, like a rock star. Yup, I know, I asked for it – I enabled them so what should I expect, right? I honestly don’t mind except when the kids wake up at the crack of dawn and blast the music right below our bedroom. Can you say, tired? Lol! That’s one way to wake up I suppose. ;p But it is cute how they both have gotten so into it, but moreso that my oldest has, as he isn’t usually the singing type, but he really enjoys hearing his own voice echo throughout the livingroom. So I made a compromise and said he could play it in his room, which isn’t that much further from our bedroom but at least there’s some buffer. *grins* It’s the least I can do for my two loveable children who really enjoy music. That and I get to listen to some old tapes of mine that bring back memories of my own childhood. And one day perhaps I can say, Yes I supported you even at the beginning of your music careers. Lol!

On another note, the boys have now decided that they would like to come and interrupt my blogging session by fighting in our room, so I gotta run! *pulls on her roller skates* Thanks for listening! Feel free to comment if you have anything similar going on in your house.

Sincerely,

Roxy

Reader Poll


Since I’m starting off this new blog as a mommy blogger, and I love to hear from readers, please complete this poll to let me know what type of content you would most be interested in seeing on here. I know that through the many mommy blogs I’ve traversed on the web, there’s many good ones out there, both with lots of categories and some niche focused. I prefer the ones that have a bit of everything, though a well written blog about one topic only can also be beneficial. I’d like to know what you’d like to read, and I’ll do my best to present more of those articles on here to share what I know with you/share the valuable information I’ve found across the web! By the way, if you’re ever on Netflix and want to check out a cute movie about mommy blogging, watch Motherhood with Uma Thurman. 🙂

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Roxy

Talking to the wall… a blog wall that is ;p

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So since I have such a bad habit of taking over conversations by talking about my own experiences, and do not wish to do this to anyone anymore, I’ve decided it best to stop talking about myself in reality and start doing it virtually, that way if someone wants to hear about stuff that’s going on in my life they can look it up, otherwise I’ll just assume it’s not worth mentioning. (Really upset at myself right now, my hubby just told me I was doing this all weekend when I thought I had gotten better at just listening to people, but apparently I’ve reverted back to my old ways). Old habits die hard I guess…

So yeah, to start with, I know I’m a total stranger, but even strangers have something interesting to say, (I hope), so here goes: I’m a Christian mother of two children, who is currently a stay-at-home mom, with a hubby who also works from home and who has a passion for helping others and creating stuff. I love to sew, (a self-taught, continuously learning, sewist), craft, garden, bake, draw comics, learn new things, sing, dance, organize stuff, watch movies/shows (Arrested Development on Netflix is a current fave), teach my children, and grow in my faith. There is always something new to work on projectwise, and of course the list keeps growing as I tend to volunteer to make stuff for people, been enjoying making stuff for birthdays and other celebrations instead of just buying stuff, but I have learned over the years that gift-giving is one of my love languages (it’s how I show others I care), and it makes sense that’s why I’ve always enjoyed making things for people since I was a child. It’s something I love to do, and this includes baking cookies for friends and family, as this way I don’t end up eating a whole batch myself and everyone gets a taste too! *grins* But I digress…

Thankfully, there are no hard and fast rules about blogging (that I’m aware), so I be free to express myself without worrying about pleasing anyone (yes, another bad habit I have to stop), and just be myself. So what you read here is the real deal, and I’m happy you can share in my life as a mom. Thanks!

P.S. – I love making homemade smoothies!! Hence the photo above! 🙂 So expect to see some foody links or recipes from time to time!

Sincerely,

Roxy